Tomorrow is I am in Control Day.

Posted on 29 March 2025

What are you in control of?

You are in control of your actions, thoughts, and words

I had this grand idea to organize a community event to 'Paint Via Romana Grey' to revamp the gates that had been graffitied to a blank slate for future artists to decorate. After asking for volunteers to help get this project going, I was denied such help, as the day in question was a Sunday, and Italians don't work on Sundays. However, another thing happened. I was asked to be a translator between one of my previous Italian artists (who does not speak English) and an American student (who spoke no Italian). The interview was about street art. It was during this interview that I realized that by painting the street grey, I would be destroying some artists' work, that had been in place for years. Maybe I would be taking away a memory or a point of reference for another. So I decided to let it go. Simple as that. But as we are approaching another day of control, I thought it might be nice to share some helpful information to help you navigate the things you can control: your mind, your mouth, and your movements. We must remember that we do have an immense amount of control- not over others, but of ourselves. Change can only begin with the individual. So on this Saturday, I wanted to take a moment to remind you that you are the master of your own domain. You can control your thoughts (eventually, through meditation and reprogramming). You are also completely responsible for whatever you say (and sometimes not saying anything is another option). You are also your own authority figure as it pertains to the way in which you respond, meaning the actions you take (and not letting your emotions take over you). So, how do you do this, one might ask? This is the work that I specialize in- in thinking positively, mastering your monkey mind, and unpredictable emotions that bubble to the surface. This is not easy work, but it is the way to true freedom from any outside source of control. If you are ready to take control of your life, consider scheduling a session with me or work with me long term. Or, if you just want to be part of the revolution of peace and love, join me! Become a member of The Substitute Society.

You can control what you wear

The beautiful thing about clothing is that it is ever changing. Each day (or several times a day) you can change your appearance and dress however you want to feel. I believe that clothing is an expression of who we are as people. It gives a glimmer into someone's personality and style, by the way they represent themselves visually. And, oh how I love to switch things up, which is why I am so excited about Opulent. This piece transforms before your very eyes from a vest, to a dress, to a cape, to a tunic, to a bolero and scarf combination (and there's actually more, you just have to get a little creative). So instead of wearing something that feels constricting, why not wear something that makes you feel free to do anything you want to do? Opulent is great for traveling as it is resistant to wrinkles, stains, water, etc. and can be worn in a plethora of ways. These are pieces for the revolution people, and they are revolutionary. However, if you desire more of a uniform on a daily basis, just wait- The Uniform Collection is underway and will be revealed soon. Each piece will be reversible and impermeable, made in a double faced black and white neoprene. In the meantime, step into your divinity with the God|dess Collection. Most pieces are unisex and designed to make you express your inner god|dess. Come, find yourself.

The Substitute & The Substitute Society

Did I mention that I have started the revolution? The retail revolution as well as the revolution of peace and love, that is. The Substitute Society is my nonprofit that also serves as a membership program for those who want to be a part of the movement. The resistance of what has had its control over us. Let's start with the breath. Most of us are holding them these days. And most of you probably know that without the breath, we will die. However, by consciously breathing, we not only raise our consciousness, but our awareness, and our body responds- positively. The Substitute is not only the ultimate fashion accessory, but a wellness tool designed to help you remember to just breathe. Use it to help any mental, emotional, or physical issues that may arise. Use it anywhere. Use it for everything. Use it to help control your emotions, words, and thoughts. It will give you energy and stamina, reducing your blood pressure and heart rate, putting you back in control over your body when it gets in a state of distress. The Substitute is ultimately a stress reliever, but can be used as a weapon, too. Use The Substitute for good, and join The Substitute Society to join the movement to overtake the system by realizing that we, the people, have the power to take back our lives from modern day slavery. We are meant to just be

Intimate Conversations with Lady Kendra

Join me every Monday at 21 CET on Instagram Live as I talk about life and such. This is my way to have a conversation with the world about some subjects that may be taboo or touchy. For me, there is no such thing. Please feel free to leave a comment or ask a question. This week I talked about promises and next week I will discuss pioneer. Be a part of the conversation in person from 19-21 at The Art of Style (reservations required) and follow the journey @kendraleonard...

Mindfulness & Movement

I also invite you to join me every Wednesday morning from 10-11 am as I share my mediation and yoga practice with the community. This is a safe space where all are welcome. No experience is required. For March, the focus is on the solar plexus, which is directly linked to your sense of self. This energy center is associated with your self-esteem, sense of purpose, personal identity, individual will, digestion, and metabolism. This chakra acts as the body’s energy powerhouse. When spinning properly, the solar plexus chakra allows energy to flow, but if it becomes blocked or clogged, you may find yourself feeling powerless, stagnant, or quick to anger. When it is out of alignment, digestive issues can arise. But when the solar plexus chakra is in healthy alignment, you will be comfortable with your own inherent power and become more empowered. You will have a sense of who you are and why you are here. When you connect with your purpose, you gain a deeper understanding of how you as an individual can contribute to the collective in a beneficial way. This is the Age of Aquarius after all -be an authentic individual, and show up for your community. You will let go of the things—whether it’s your job or bank account balance—that you depend on to define who you are. Those things may have value, but overvaluing anything that subject to change is a quick road to suffering. You have inherent value; take the time through practice to investigate it, and you will be less dependent on external sources of happiness. Come with an open heart and mind, and feel your body unwind. Love yourself.

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You only live once, and you do have control over how you live it...

Your mind, body, and soul are controllable (make sure it is you who has dominion over them).

Find yourself.