Today is National Cut the Cord Day.
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It's National Cut the Cord Day.
Cease to rely on someone or something protective or supportive and begin to act independently.
Stop relying on someone.
We create habits with people in our lives and breaking them can be challenging. But when you recognize that your patterns are unhealthy or that you are unhappy, it is time to take action. Most people stay in relationships because it is easier than being alone. However, staying in your comfort zone doesn't allow you to grow and therefore you become stagnant. Also, holding onto the other person and not allowing them to move forward in their lives is quite selfish. Knowing that the most important relationship to be in is with yourself and staying true to yourself is paramount.
End a connection with someone.
Ending a relationship with someone is not easy. Of course you entered into the relationship with good intentions and you have grown to love and care for this person, so of course you do not want to cause them harm or hurt their feelings. The first thing to recognize is that this is not easy. It is important to have the conversation face to face, which shows a level of respect. You want to be honest, but don't go into too much detail. You also don't want to give into arguments or protests. And don't blame or shame. Most importantly, show sympathy and give yourself, and them, time to grieve. This is a death of a relationship. It will take time to heal.
Become more independent.
Once you've stepped out on your own, it can be a little unnerving. Who am I? What do I want to do? These are questions that you can sit with and start to rediscover yourself though this process. We can get lost in our partners and not even realize it. Recognizing that relationships don't always last forever and that your partner was here to help you grow and vice versa helps you understand that there was purpose during that time together. When it is time to move on, it can be hard, but it is the right thing to do. Then you can venture on to the next chapter in your life, which may include being solo. Don't knock it till you try it. Being single is quite enjoyable even though society pressures you to constantly be in a couple. Don't believe the hype. Until you find someone that knocks your socks off, you're better off being single. Need help consciously uncoupling or talking through this endeavor? Please consider scheduling a session with me. I can help you gain the confidence you need to have the conversation more comfortably, while being true to yourself and the one you love, as you learn to let them go and transition to being an independent person.
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How to cut the cord energetically.
Are there fragments of a relationship that are still lingering on? There is a ritual that you can do to physically 'cut the cord.' I've done this with my spiritual guide as well as on my own. What you need: piece of twine, salt, paper, pen, and two lighters. First, write both names on separate sheets of small paper. Make a hole through each one and thread the twine through them both and tie a knot. Encircle yourself with a ring of salt. Say out loud, 'I release _____ , and if this person ever enters my life again, it will only be in a positive manner for both parties involved.' Light the twine on fire and keep burning it along with the pieces of paper have completely burned to ash. This can take anywhere from seconds to an hour, depending on the strength of the bond. Use the time it takes to release the other person through the breath/tears. When the ceremony is complete, break the barrier of salt, and exit the sacred space.
Find yourself.