When you find yourself in another go round where you are the common denominator, take a moment to see the recurring patterns in your life. Whether it be in a relationship, a job, or a financial situation, taking a step back to see how you got here will help you see how to get out of it. But first, you must be aware of your patterns and where they came from. If you don't like where you're at, do something about it. And that's the next step:

Every time you say something negative, stop. Turn whatever you were going to say into a positive statement. Or, don't say anything at all. I just came off two days of silence, and a lot of situations can be diffused if you choose not to say anything. Taking this practice to more every day encounters will help me avoid such pitfalls. And know that if you make a misstep, it is okay. Pick yourself back up and try again.

Be kind to yourself. We are all of this journey called life and some times it can be hard. Figuring out who you are and what you came from to make you be you is quite the task. Having acceptance for you and what you are going through takes grace and time. Give yourself the space to grieve, heal, and just simply be.